Embarking in a new career or job search is always exciting, but the other side of that coin – or lily pad – can be degrading and discouraging, too. Have you been close to the job of your dreams only to fall short on getting an offer? It might be a blessing in disguise. Garth Brook’s wrote a song about this called, “Unanswered Prayers”, though the motivation for this ditty was different than job woes; the song is about love and relationships. Fitting for today’s post, but don’t skip ahead to the conclusion just yet…
Bottom line with the topic at hand: See the positive in the process itself – the silver lining – you are getting interviews.
This post is for anyone who has repeatedly made themselves vulnerable (and is growing weary) or took a chance on getting a new career or job, but didn’t get the news they hoped to receive. Dejection can come in various forms, but most often email. It also can happen at anytime during the process: From the screening call to the 5th interview (it stings a bit more when so much time has been invested, right?). And hopefully you aren’t enduring more than 5 interviews before getting news – Unless you are looking to become president, in which case let’s hope you don’t get rejected by a Tweet.
Still, the lesson here is to NOT give up. NEVER take job rejection personally.
It’s not you.
Even if you had a bad interview “performance” or second guessed yourself the second you hung up the phone or walked out the door (face to face interview), you cannot take it personally. Companies pass on candidates all the time and it could be for very obscure reasons. You may never get the closure you need, but understanding some of the rationale and reasons behind WHY you might have been passed on will be helpful. It was for me!
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4 Reasons to never take job rejection personally:
1. You just weren’t the right fit.
You said all the right things. Your resume is an astounding match to the criteria; almost as if the job write-up matches up nicely with your experience and resume bullet for bullet. You were a sure thing. Right?
Truth is, your communication style might be different from what they are looking for. You might have even jived well with numerous people you met in the process, but then you meet your prospective boss. He/She is an introvert – you are an extrovert. They are into the details of things, you see the forest. You infuse humor and fun into your delivery, they are as dry as paint. Perhaps you wore a blue dress or shirt to the interview, but the interviewer is partial to red or orange?
I wish I was joking.
Don’t take it personally. Frustrating, sure. You invest lots of time and get a less than favorable outcome. But, there is nothing you did wrong (ASSUMING you didn’t swear at the interviewer or do something highly malicious or obnoxious). You weren’t tweeting during the interview? #Frogetaboutit
2. Fishing anyone?
The company was fishing to see what talent is out there, but with no intention of hiring anyone.
This happens, too. You may look like a dead ringer. It’s the perfect lily pad, but the job ad is fake. It was posted by a recruiter to get attention and garner more candidates to fill other jobs. Or, companies are just wondering what talent is out there. In some cases you might even get a screening call to help beef up numbers for the HR contact or recruiter, but that’s all it is.
Fake news? No. Fake opportunity? Yes.
Unfortunately, it’s hard to know which ads are truly fake. One telling sign is when you see a post that has a LARGE range in salary. “Looking for Business Analyst – Pays $45,000 – $120,000.” The other thing is that it almost looks TOO perfect. If I was the job poster, I would have atleast made it something like $81,400 – $96,500. But ehh…
If the details look too generalized it’s probably not real. Real job ads are usually daunting in that NO ONE can fulfill all the criteria.
Amphibious or too ambitious?
It’s important to understand, rejection can be felt by absence of a response to your resume or application, too. It’s still a form of job rejection. While it may not be as poignant as getting an interview THEN getting bad news, it still stings. There are HUNDREDS of reasons you get no response at all – or don’t get selected in the first place, but don’t take it personally. TOAD-ally forget about it (Couldn’t resist, but you have to have humor)! – John Waite, Founder
3. Other candidate is more qualified.
We may not want to admit it, but there could be folks out there – interviewing for the same role – that just have more talent. Talent for THAT role. Sure, similar to rationale as mentioned it point 1, but that candidate [revisit 1. above] HAS superb skills. In this instant, the job is calling for someone who has worked specifically with Salesforce Migrations and you have only 1 year of experience and the other candidate has 10. If everything else is equal between the both of you, why wouldn’t the company take the person with more experience?
So you got the call, but just got nudged out by someone who is truly more qualified.
There are always other corollaries and attributes, but point is that sometimes you are just up against someone else who was meant to get the job.
“PONDer this”, Can another frog really replace Kermit?
4. Company lost funding or ROI (Return on Investment) factor.
Could be that you are asking for more money than candidate B or C. Hiring company feels you are both great candidates, so why not go with the person asking for $10,000 less? You really cannot get caught up in this. Your asking price is your asking price and you should never lower it. Do the research and understand what the market pays for your position and region, but you have to factor in what you make already, too. It’s not an easy game to win.
In my experience, most companies wont let money settle things. If they like you they like you, so just be better than frog #2.
I always liken the job world with dating. Sometimes you WANT the other person to be the perfect fit. To be the man or woman of your dreams. You have waited a long time and tired of the same old same old. But, sadly, it doesn’t work like that. Things happen when you least expect it, but you have to continue to be open to the idea. You have to be you. Don’t lost hope. Lose negativity. One frog will become a prince or princess.
Did you know frogs can be found in lowland forests, subtropical areas, rivers, and “BROOKS”? … Also, on company pages and the web? ANSWERED Prayers.
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